Stop Waiting For External Validation
On Purpose with Jay Shetty | 11 sep 2026 | 00:31:24
Jay explores how living in a world of likes, ratings, and constant feedback can make us lose touch with our own judgment. He shares five shifts for relying less on outside approval and building more trust in yourself: from learning to read yourself instead of the room and separating belonging from approval, to questioning what you really want and building self-trust through the small promises you keep to yourself.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
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What We Discuss:
0:00 Introduction
00:24 What’s Really Behind the Need for Validation
03:20 Five Shifts From External to Internal Validation
03:38 Reading The Room Vs. Reading Yourself
06:09 Evolution, Tribe Instincts, And Borrowed Opinions
08:18 Why is Rejection So Painful?
12:16 Escaping The Box
15:32 Auditing Your Desires And Expectations
18:06 Building Self-Trust Vs. Chasing Confidence
25:15 Stop Watching Your Life From the Outside
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With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
Mazda crafts cars for people who do more than simply move. Visit Mazdausa.com to learn more. Consumer reports does not endorse products or services.
Talk to a State Farm agent today to learn how you can choose to bundle and save with the Personal Price Plan. Like a good neighbor, State Farm is there.
JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX
Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe
Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast
What We Discuss:
0:00 Introduction
00:24 What’s Really Behind the Need for Validation
03:20 Five Shifts From External to Internal Validation
03:38 Reading The Room Vs. Reading Yourself
06:09 Evolution, Tribe Instincts, And Borrowed Opinions
08:18 Why is Rejection So Painful?
12:16 Escaping The Box
15:32 Auditing Your Desires And Expectations
18:06 Building Self-Trust Vs. Chasing Confidence
25:15 Stop Watching Your Life From the Outside
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